Should you expect your friends, your family to be as excited as you are about your book?
Should you expect them to understand what it really means that you’ve written a book?
I mean, You. Have. Written. A. Book! That’s a tremendous feat. But, no… unless they’ve written a book themselves, don’t expect the people around you to be as excited as you are. Don’t expect them to understand. And don’t expect them to read your book.
Even if you ask nicely.
And know that it’s okay!
Our family and friends just may not be our market. They may not be interested in the things we write about. And remember, like us, they have busy lives. If your book is not top priority for whatever reason — be it time, interest, etc., accept it for what it is and move on. Keep in mind that ultimately you are writing for yourself and are in turn sharing your writing with your target readers — readers who share the same interests as you.
And that’s what’s important.
I write this not only as encouragement to you, but as a reminder to myself. It’s hard work writing a book. We pour our hearts into it. We spend hours-days-months with our characters, and we love them like family.
We give a little piece of ourselves with every book we write.
We make ourselves vulnerable. And that’s a big deal.
Don’t get discouraged. Remember, your friends, family, and acquaintances probably just don’t understand.
For more reassurance and encouragement, check out this great article - Dealing with Friends' Reactions to Your Writing - from the Alliance of Independent Authors (ALLi).